hello people!
well, i am now back to normal mood =)
haiz. but i was thinking abt how to live with ppl,especially my sis, happily.. i think i might have a problem with this.. coz this is always the problem..
hmmm. i admit that it takes 2 hands to clap.. and i am also aware of my weakness.. but den i am trying to change and at the meantime, feel comfortable.. i wont want to change myself to suit others and feel damn unhappy.. u get wad i mean?
i do whatever the way i want to, as long as i like it.
well, i am sure most people are like that.. and this may seem like i am too pampered and spoilt.. however.. everytime i do something.. i will still consider other factors and if i think it's reasonable, i will do it.. and if another person see my doings as immature, ridiculous or wadeva, i will really be unhappy.. and furthermore, if the person impose their own opinions and principles on me and force me to follow wad they are doing, i will be utimately pissed off.. different people have different thinking and principles to hold tightly to. and now i am considered a grown up, 19 yr old to be. so, i think people should also give me some privacy and freedom and not be my mother to tell me wad to do. anyway, my parents will never do that. so, i thought abt it, my principles that i hold tightly to is: freedom and privacy-- which lead to peace and happiness.
and sometimes, caring and intruding can be really close and also result in extreme emotions, happy and angry. So, once caring cross the border to intruding, it's like love turning to hatred. How do we know where to stop?well, difficult... but i am sure that u can feel when is it. when u see someone feeling happy or sad regarding a certain issue and looks for someone to talk to, den u can show the caring side of u. but when it's something very personal and hides it away, den dont intrude. oh and if it's a person's habits(be it good or bad), and u dont like it and doesnt really affect u, den dont bother to try and change that person since it's the HABITS.. which means it's hard to change. well, but if it really affects u, den just say it.. and i am sure the other party would be considerate enough to compromise.
staying together is abt compromising, privacy and freedom. This is the best way to stay happily. Giving freedom and privacy, u would not see the things and doings of the other person that u think it's wrong or ridiculous, and u wont feel angry.
Well, there are a lot of things that u can do, but u might not want to coz the other person might not like it. if it's nevermind to u, it doesnt mean that the other party think the way u think.
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